Her abolitionist activities made her more sensitive to the limits placed on women. She refused to marry since she was so averse to being subjugated to males. Because women were not allowed to speak in public gatherings at the time, Sarah was seen as a feminist leader. She boldly questioned women's traditional domestic duties. Her speeches made many men angry with violence, but also many women who felt equal rights should be granted also.
Sarah Grimke died at age 36 of tuberculosis. Even though she was a prominent activist, no major organization ever named their headquarters after her. However, several institutions do bear her name: a college in South Carolina, and two streets in Washington, D.C.
After Sarah's death, her father, a wealthy Virginia farmer, hired a young lawyer named Abraham Lincoln to help him fight lawsuits filed by local farmers who had land claims against him. The work took Lincoln into his own office building in Springfield, Illinois. It there that he met Sarah's mother, who was from a well-to-do family in Kentucky. They fell in love and got married. After the wedding, Mrs. Lincoln went back home to Kentucky while Mr. Lincoln moved to Illinois. He started a law practice with another man but later bought out his partner to form his own firm.
Lincoln became involved in politics early on and was elected president of the Illinois Whig Party when he was only 32 years old.
It may appear unusual that Moore, who never married, spent much of her life with her mother, and was very private about her personal life, would create a well renowned poem on marriage and gender dynamics, but Moore was really quite interested in and bothered by the issue. Her first marriage ended in divorce, and she wrote several poems about this experience. She also wrote about her second marriage in some detail, although it lasted only three years.
Moore got divorced when she was thirty-one years old. Her husband had been sent to prison for six months for fraud involving money he had taken from his wife's bank account. He later escaped from jail and moved to California, where he worked as a cab driver and lived off his wife until she died in 1991 at the age of ninety-two. During this time they did not speak to each other again.
In the early 1960s, after her second divorce, Moore became involved with a man named Donald Allen. They were married for three years before separating in 1965. Moore described this experience too in some detail in several poems.
Finally, there is one more marriage related poem by Moore. It's called "Marriage," and it was published for the first time in 1975. The main character in this poem is another woman, and it's suggested that they are sisters.
Oprah Winfrey explains why she didn't marry Stedman Graham. He struck her as a "player," she says. "I wanted to be asked," Winfrey explained in her letter. I wanted to know whether he thought I was worthy of becoming his missus, but I didn't want to make the sacrifices, concessions, and day-in, day-out commitment that marriage requires. I wanted to love and be loved in return, but I didn't want to give up my name or identity.
Winfrey also said she doesn't believe in marriage. It's about choices she has made and believes will serve her best interests. She wants what every other woman wants: "a good man who treats me right."
She goes on to say that most men don't seek out divorced women because they think you can pick up where you left off after a divorce. This is not true for most men, but it is true for some. If you were married to one of these men, you would need to explain your marital status before you could get back together again. Even if you weren't married when you started dating, many men assume that you are now free to date otherwise.
It's hard for a man to understand how someone like Oprah could stay single for so long. She's been in nearly a thousand episodes of her talk show alone! But according to Winfrey, there's no point in marrying someone with whom you cannot share yourself completely. A relationship based on mutual respect and admiration is all that matters.
Anything is preferable or tolerable to marriage without affection. 'I liked Jane's perseverance to follow her heart against the expectations of her friends and family. Jane desired marriage to be a result of love, not a route to financial stability. She believed that once you take away all hope of love and happiness in marriage, then there is no need for it.
Marriage was important to Jane's family. The Bennets were well-off but not rich and although they had land, it wasn't enough to make any real difference for them. So when Jane decided to avoid it, her parents felt they had no choice but to respect her wishes.
Love is an important factor in marriage, but it isn't the only one. A stable job, common interests, and sufficient education--all of which Jane enjoyed--are also necessary ingredients for a successful relationship.
The idea of marrying for money is something that comes from the world we live in now, not from those earlier times. If you look at the history of marriage, you will see that most marriages before the 20th century were purely economic. The husband would provide security for his wife and family by getting employment with a bank or company so they could have a steady income. If he didn't find such a position, then they would marry for love instead.